tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post6036492613235411522..comments2022-05-17T07:25:43.117-04:00Comments on The R-Word Reporter: "The Grey" - Another Movie Using the R-WordJenny Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-11935217343241510262012-11-17T04:29:53.849-05:002012-11-17T04:29:53.849-05:00Charlie and the Chocolate Factory is on Channel 9 ...Charlie and the Chocolate Factory is on Channel 9 TV right now during family viewing hours. Mike TV's r***** dialogue piece was included unofortunately. This is very disapppointing and upsetting! There is no point campaigning anymore I think. There is no respect and this seems impossible to change.Jamesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-85109571451013771042012-09-19T06:06:19.321-04:002012-09-19T06:06:19.321-04:00Hello all,
I, too, do not like the "R" ...Hello all,<br /><br />I, too, do not like the "R" word, and I have tried to teach my children the importance of respecting the different personalities and capabilities that all people bring to relationships. I do not have a personal relationship with anyone that falls within this disability, but I do have many friends who have other disabilities.<br /><br />The point of my post is this: I wanted to say "Thanks!" to those of you who took the time to describe the pain that occurs when society categorizes your loved ones as "different." I have bookmarked this page and am going to share your thoughts with my children.<br /><br />Information is good. You've helped one family already...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-91065916530909703662012-06-28T18:57:26.682-04:002012-06-28T18:57:26.682-04:00Exactly the problem, the word started being used t...Exactly the problem, the word started being used to describe people who were viewed as less than human, & treated much worse than animals. When someone uses any word fitting a group of people, let alone one that fits that discription, it's not ok, especially to describe something stupid, annoying, or anything else that's negative! The medical diagnosis is just that, medical, not to be thrown around. I heard someone say it, while in line, to call their childs behavior stupid. I told them that it's derogatory, & not even addressing it's use as abusive. The husband quoted the dictionaries definition, which was medical. The woman who said it felt bad, & seemed to take my forearm crutches to mean I have that diagnosis. It shouldn't matter who has it that can hear, knowing it's offensive to many should be enough.<br />I call it lazy writing, when people use any slurs or jokes that attack a group, when there's so many possibilities that don't! It's sad that I've always known, & know many of us have spread the word for 20 years, & it's still needed. Thank you! It was also on ABC Family Pretty Little liar a few weeks ago, & too many times to count on an episode of green acres that still runs on occasion.dearonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12251757124588450740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-80615815401312398182012-05-13T17:39:05.573-04:002012-05-13T17:39:05.573-04:00Just watched The Rebound and the two kids are argu...Just watched The Rebound and the two kids are arguing... one says, "You are retarded." And the other says "No, you are retarded."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-2837811012718359232012-04-17T10:51:25.568-04:002012-04-17T10:51:25.568-04:00It's not enough to complain here. Everyone ne...It's not enough to complain here. Everyone needs to write a polite letter explaining our position. I did that to Adam McKay asking him not to use the R word in Anchorman 2 and he tweeted back that he agreed that the R word is over. We can't complain to each other. Nothing will happen that way. Everyone needs to get on Twitter and reach out to the offenders. I don't know if they use the word with malice (like Sarah Silverman or Daniel Tosh or Larry the Cable guy) but if we don't reach out and explain then how can we expect change? Sorry to post Anonymous but I don't have any of the other accounts!<br />Hannah Jacobs<br />Family MemberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-59158258863422435612012-04-17T10:47:13.041-04:002012-04-17T10:47:13.041-04:00I bet if you write to Disney they will make the ch...I bet if you write to Disney they will make the change. They have been very good in the past about listening to the needs of the special needs community.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-25463426932858781312012-03-07T17:07:53.214-05:002012-03-07T17:07:53.214-05:00I totally support this cause, but what about the w...I totally support this cause, but what about the words "dumb" and "lame"? "Dumb" is defined as "lacking the power of speech" which many kids with people with disabilities do. The definition has broadened to mean unintelligent but that is only because of the derogatory use of the word. And the definition of lame is "crippled or physically disabled, especially in the foot or leg so as to limp or walk with difficulty." Why do these words get ignored?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-42790154722777463672012-02-27T09:18:11.104-05:002012-02-27T09:18:11.104-05:00Hi Jennifer, I am wondering if you would do us the...Hi Jennifer, I am wondering if you would do us the honor of becoming an official Stop Disability Slurs advocate? That would mean you would have authority to post on our page and moderate the news stream, etc. etc. You just have to remember to sign your posts as JT, SDS Advocate (or whatever initials you'd like to use). Send me a message on Facebook if you are interested! - Gretchen Mathergretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16251414695124678846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-83052029166091857682012-02-25T14:17:40.708-05:002012-02-25T14:17:40.708-05:00Hi! Please send use of the word anywhere! We wan...Hi! Please send use of the word anywhere! We want to make our list as inclusive as possible. Thanks for your comment!Jenny Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-78746780611705440472012-02-24T21:19:48.892-05:002012-02-24T21:19:48.892-05:00This is the Tim Burton movie with Johnny Depp rath...This is the Tim Burton movie with Johnny Depp rather than the 70s Film with Gene Wilder.<br />I have a six year old boy, with Downs and we recently sat down with our four children to watch it on DVD, we switched off as soon as the word was used. It's a shame so many movies, tv shows, songs, comiedians, etc feel the need to use such a horrible word.<br />This blog is a great idea, is it okay to report the use of the word in the UK, or is it just for the US?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-56367286628900483282012-02-24T20:38:53.347-05:002012-02-24T20:38:53.347-05:00here where can write to the cast
Hey Twitter addi...here where can write to the cast <br />Hey Twitter addicts - make sure to follow these talented folks from The Grey:<br /><br />CAST<br />Dermot Mulroney - http://www.twitter.com/DMulroney<br />Frank Grillo - http://www.twitter.com/FrankGrillo<br />Joe Anderson - http://www.twitter.com/_JoeAnderson<br /><br />Director Joe Carnahan - http://www.twitter.com/carnojoe<br /><br />Producer Jules Daly - http://www.twitter.com/tankdalyDermot Mulroney <br /><br />Thanks rachel for the facebook info where can write to that joe. mariaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-37556847828380897072012-02-23T15:46:55.454-05:002012-02-23T15:46:55.454-05:00Here is a link to the Facebook page of the writer ...Here is a link to the Facebook page of the writer of The Grey. Maybe we can all let him know that his word ruined the film for many people. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Joe-Carnahan/106577382717717?sk=wallRachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-59517301166893041052012-02-23T09:43:31.139-05:002012-02-23T09:43:31.139-05:00I am all for free speech, but it ends when you moc...I am all for free speech, but it ends when you mock a defenseless human being. The "R" word does just that, despite the defenses people throw at you for it's use. A word of advice to you people that use it, educate yourselves, then step back & think how you would feel being on the receiving end. Then find a cause & start helping & supporting people that are of different needs than yours. It feels really good!Kevin Cowlesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-11766865858844479602012-02-22T20:45:35.087-05:002012-02-22T20:45:35.087-05:00Jeff-- I could not agree with you more. Thank you...Jeff-- I could not agree with you more. Thank you for so eloquently putting into words what some of these posts have been making me feel. I'm trying to stay positive and get a thick skin so I can just keep advocating and spreading awareness. Thank you so very much for the advocating you do and for your awesome, insightful and intelligent comments!!!Jenny Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-84478393882943929112012-02-22T20:43:50.742-05:002012-02-22T20:43:50.742-05:00Tess-- thank you so very much for your passionate ...Tess-- thank you so very much for your passionate and insightful response!!! You ROCK!!!! I was just working on my "thick skin" and trying to brush off the negative comments and all of the positive posts have been so incredible. Hugs and thanks for how well you advocate for respect!Jenny Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-64950455574354583452012-02-22T20:40:42.490-05:002012-02-22T20:40:42.490-05:00Rachel-- I feel naive sometimes also. Not to ment...Rachel-- I feel naive sometimes also. Not to mention silly for getting so fired up over a word, but when I read about other families and individuals who feel the same way I know what we are striving for is justified. Thanks for your comments!!Jenny Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-88207562003518738942012-02-22T20:31:36.080-05:002012-02-22T20:31:36.080-05:00Thank you for sharing Amy! Now I'm going to h...Thank you for sharing Amy! Now I'm going to have to re-read that book. I can't believe I didn't pick up on it the first time. Will add to the list! Thanks again!Jenny Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606622799302380804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-2202382188832017322012-02-22T20:24:24.079-05:002012-02-22T20:24:24.079-05:00I wonder if it changes by where you live. When Di...I wonder if it changes by where you live. When Disney showed the film the R word was removed. They are extremely respectful of people with differences. I bet if you write to both ABC and Disney and your local affiliate they won't do it again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-57757713643559500372012-02-22T20:23:17.643-05:002012-02-22T20:23:17.643-05:00Dear Anonymous,
We don't need to get real a...Dear Anonymous, <br /> We don't need to get real as we already are very very real. Nor do we need to grow up - we are very grown up. And above all else, we already do welcome life and have no intention of jumping off a bridge no matter how difficult life gets. Some studies suggest that the mental stress of parenting a child with a disability is comparable to the mental stress of combat. That doesn't sound like fragility to me. That sounds incredibly tough.You are right though, we do tend to reach out our hands to hold onto each other.But, I am thinking that perhaps you meant "hand-wringing" instead? Well, we don't have time to sit around and wring our hands do we? If you knew anything about parenting a child with a disability you would know that much of what we do is work towards the day our children can live independently in a community that welcomes and supports them. We don't want to hover over them forever, as your helicopter parent term suggests. We are working together to make life(as in the world) a better (some would say a more welcoming!) place for our children to grow up in, free of discrimination, prejudice and hatred that is well-documented throughout history towards people with intellectual disabilities. While that sounds like a tall order, I would also like to say that we are also quite prepared take on people like you who would belittle and ridicule our efforts. And just so you know, there is nothing dubious about the offensiveness of the word retard. It IS offensive. So, Anonymous, what are YOU doing to make the world a better place?Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14587892869675354455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-55585988576108206972012-02-22T20:05:31.627-05:002012-02-22T20:05:31.627-05:00I love this site as it gives a chance to educate s...I love this site as it gives a chance to educate so many. I love to talk about the power of the R word. I also would love to take responsibility for giving it power because that also might mean I could get that power back. But unfortunately none of us can do that so easily. We did however come together recently when the power of that word was used to deny a child an organ she needed to live. Yep, we all got together and said NO! You can not use the power of that word to say this child has less value than another. So if some think we are over zealous then I say we have every right to be. This unfortunately is the power of that word.<br />And, if a movie takes you away from the movie, from the character, then the movie did a bad job. Editors spend hours combing footage for any inconsistency that might make us the viewer "leave" the film. When this word is said, overzealous or not I "leave" the film. I hear nothing but that word for the rest of the film. So many of us are just trying to say we do want the power of that word back. We do want you to be respectful Mr. Producer and let us enjoy your film too.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-8850733551485170012012-02-22T19:43:41.259-05:002012-02-22T19:43:41.259-05:00Silly. What is silly is that the culture we are cu...Silly. What is silly is that the culture we are currently in thinks the R word is just a word and that somehow an artist can use it as they wish. What is silly is that our culture has learned nothing from our artisitic past and is choosing to repeat it. In the 1930's and 40's it was considered art to mock black people on the big screen. Artist thought nothing about the portrayal of African American as shiftless, ne'er do wells and thought nothing of abusing them in name and character. Thankfully, our culture has shifted and through the education and steadfast work of many un named heroes, it is no longer considered art to portray or abuse African Americans in this way. <br />There are many choices an actor can make, a writer can make and an audience can make artistically. I dare say the character in this film would have been seen in the same light if he would have chosen another word here. Ultimately the culture we live is a cycle, culture affects art, art affects culture. We are just doing our part to affect it. Silly? I don't think so. Naive to think we can affect it without a fight? yep. But I will make my silly effort non the less.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-30731306518652381842012-02-22T19:42:31.651-05:002012-02-22T19:42:31.651-05:00I am so glad someone is keeping track of these thi...I am so glad someone is keeping track of these things! I don't know if anyone reported this one to you, but here it goes: I enjoy reading, especially non fiction. Picked up the book "Julie and Julia" by Julie Powell a couple weeks ago, because I heard the movie was good and Julia Child was a childhood icon. Immediately got turned off by the author's vulgar language and flip attitude about life, but persisted reading it - how could three or four pages of glowing reviews from all the best critics at the beginning of her book be wrong? Got to the page where she makes fun of a very sad situation in a subway as she basically belittles a woman's mental health melt down in a subway. Ok, should I still read more? Doubting myself I keep going until I hit the chapter where she finds it good that her friend calls Jimmy Fallon a "f*****g R-word". I was shocked and immediately put the book down. No wonder it is said that Julia Child didn't like Julie Powell. I agree completely. She probably made a ton of money on her insulting book, movie, guest appearances, etc. When will people learn that making fun of the most vulnerable of us is just wrong?Amy Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-60115419493301116712012-02-22T19:20:41.092-05:002012-02-22T19:20:41.092-05:00This is in the new Charlie starring Johnny Depp. I...This is in the new Charlie starring Johnny Depp. It of course is banned in our house. But the ole one is better. Watch it.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-20162238243941299742012-02-22T17:16:44.244-05:002012-02-22T17:16:44.244-05:00thanks fpor the info about who saying the r word ...thanks fpor the info about who saying the r word in movie and other things to,mariaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-374483673251473551.post-71258214982116186812012-02-22T17:15:34.881-05:002012-02-22T17:15:34.881-05:00I'm noticing a theme with the comments that ha...I'm noticing a theme with the comments that have a strong dislike for the blog.<br /><br />1. Ignorance, this is a service I actually thought of starting with our D.A.D.S. (Dads Appreciating Down Syndrome) group in order to just shield people from going out to the movies, which anyone with kids knows is a feat in itself, spending our hard earned money on a movie and then having the word dropped in your lap like a hot steamy turd. It just ruins the entire mood of the night even if it was clearly a throw away line. No one is saying to boycott movies, actors, studios...just a hey heads up, this useless word might ruin your evening.<br /><br />2. Misplaced Anger, How do people find a blog like this unless they are tied into groups that support families dealing with these issues? Take "Anonymous" for example, his first statement, is incorrect. Last I checked most informed communities are abolishing this very title for their Intellectual Disability programs. And why is Anonymous reading this blog? What does it have to do with his life? Other than to uphold his duty as the Super Avenger of Tough Guy America! I don't believe any of the commenters reading your blog said, hey stop doing things for the hungry and homeless in America so we can fight these people for using a word we find offensive?<br /><br />3. I would love to see statistics of your followers and their comments on who are parents, or have children with special needs. Something tells me Anonymous who was really brave in making his comments under the name I'm sure is on his birth certificate is neither a parent nor relative of anyone who would be sensitive to this topic.Jeff Ouimettenoreply@blogger.com